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05-04-2018, 08:07 #1
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Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Good morning
I potentially have a problem :-(
For the last year I had my ex-girlfriend and her daughter live with me (rent free!)
She knew before we got together that I have a firearm; even took her to the range to show and let her shoot it. (she loved it)
Fast forward a year where she started numerous fights over insignificant and unreasonable things where not once i ever lost my temper or gave her any reason to fear me in any way.
She even told me many times how safe and secure she felt.
Last month I got to the point that I did not want to live with her anger, negativity and unreasonableness anymore and called it off.
She badgered me for more than a week to keep trying / go for counseling but unfortunately i had enough and stuck to my decision.
One of the last things she said was how she lost her best friend and protector.
Queue forward a week where this morning she text me to say i have anger issues and she is going to report me to SAPS because I should not own a firearm.
In all the time i have owned a firearm I have never been irresponsible or has anyone ever accused me of having anger issues.
I have numerous people who will vouch for that.
If she does go to the SAPS and lies how much trouble can she cause?
Should i book my firearm into a dealer so long just in case?
Should i go SAPS and report her anger issues before she reports me?
nb. I am a GOSA member so will contact them if I need their assistance depending on feedback to this thread.
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05-04-2018, 08:13 #2
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Honestly, free advise is worth exactly as much as you pay for it.
This could turn out to be nothing or it could become a big issue. Rather chat to GOSA.
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05-04-2018, 08:17 #3
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
There has been threads on similar themes in the past where possible outcomes and experiences were discussed. That might help you a lot.
If I were in your shoes I would get to the cops asap and discuss it with the DFO as well as the atation commander. Give them your side of the story before she can.
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05-04-2018, 09:20 #4
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Get a lawyer. Now.
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05-04-2018, 10:04 #5
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Contact SSP. He's helped me with a similar issue.
Write down in as much detail as possible any incidents she had with you where she was aggressive and threatened you.
You need a lawyer
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05-04-2018, 10:12 #6
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Thanks for advice guys - just what I needed to confirm.
At work ATM (too many ears) but will make contact asap.
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05-04-2018, 13:05 #7
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
A year or 2 ago my son had a similar incident with an ex. Acting on advice on this forum we booked his firearms into dealer storage till things blew over. It is difficult for her to accuse you of being a threat when when you are pro-active and show that you are not. When she heard that the firearms were stored at a dealer she dropped this line of thinking. After about 2 weeks recovered his EDC firearm, without informing her.
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05-04-2018, 13:08 #8
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05-04-2018, 13:45 #9
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
Get a lawyer who is very familiar with the FCA and related issues NOW.
I heard of a person, not a direct aquaintance of mine, who had issues with a vindictive/manipulative ex/wife/GF. She actually laid charges of pointing of a FA and assault. In court, the defendant could prove that his FA's were booked into the local GS at the time of the alleged incident. He even got a cost order against her...
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05-04-2018, 15:26 #10
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Re: Spiteful ex-girlfriend
This can turn out to be a serious problem so tread carefully.
Avoid all contact (even SMS/whatsapp and sit tight. Note that she could potentially get a family violence interdict/protection order against you and that those orders are typically granted on an interim basis without notice to the "accused", so don't give any grounds (at all).
If something happens call a lawyer who knows something about these matters.
Putting your guns into safekeeping will not help.
(I am a lawyer in my "real" life)
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