GOLD DIGGER - the female type

[Zuku]

There is an old saying you can choose your wife and your friends, but not their in-laws. Somewhere down most families there is always a bright one, a stupid one, a beautiful one, an ugly one, a thin one, a fat one etc.. etc… whatever genes was passed along the family line.

So here’s the story to the best of my collection of some far off married onto relatives. Father died a long time ago and Mother died 6 months ago, Brother in Law no 2 (Bil2) was married to Gold digger (now about 54 years old and 60 kg’s) a long time ago. During marriage gold digger became pregnant with 2nd child from another man while married. Got divorced, married about 3 times and still divorced, had about 8 to 9 boyfriends recently with the latest one about 75 y old. Gold digger took early pension and wasted all money on Casinos, Joll’s and Liquor. Now she is without a job, without a home, and only a very small monthly pension.

Bil4 is about 55 years old. Twenty years ago he had a massive stroke, rendering half of his body useless. The stroke definitely killed some brain cells. While in hospital he had a blood clot in the brain, an operation and some more brain cells died. His semi state work did not board him. Left leg and arm does not move at all. They put him on a reserve list with full pay. So now for the past 20 years Bil4 does not have to work, with no hobbies, get a full monthly pay and decided to start drinking as hobby. So by now the brain cells should be double digits. In the meantime Bil4 gained weight and is about 150/155 kg’s and can hardly walk about 10 m on his own. The rest he has to be carted in a wheel chair by someone. He gets periodically elliptical seizures and fall from chairs while sitting or while standing and walking.

Bil4 and Mom lived in the same house belonging to Bil4 while Mom took care of Bil4 and the finances. Bil4 was married a long time ago and now divorced and first wife nearly bankrupt him if it was not for his lawyer. Bil4 has a tenant (part time caretaker) in the flat let that helps Bil4 to move around and dress him.

Here comes the juicy part. A week after Mom died gold digger rang up Bil4 to convey condolences. A week later there were daily conversations and gold digger sort of invited herself to come and visit Bil4. When the other family starts to ask gold digger when she is going back, she always has excuses. She always phones the family and advises them how well she looks after Bill4. Gold digger son confirmed there are no home and no work to go back to.

The family planned to get together before Xmas. Two days before the big family get together, Bil4 let the family know he is now engaged to gold digger. Immediately everyone asked why did they not have made it a family event. When the family saw Bil4 all was shocked to see how his health and general appearance has deteriorate. He looks like a wild hobo. On the two days the family got together gold digger invited two of her friends along. There was never a time anyone could speak privately to Bil4. One of gold digger friends was always omni present to prevent any private time. Unfortunately the 2 friends had to leave as they had trouble at their own home. Bil4 and gold digger blew about 30 K in 20 days and no money or liquor in the house just before Xmas. They even sold off some furniture that belongs to mom and the Estate Will to buy more liquor. After borrowing some money from a relative, Bil4 sent gold digger to get some booze and the family could asked some questions..

Bil4 then announced he’s getting married March 2024 and is going to leave the house, furniture and all finances to gold digger and will also get married in communal property. I did not matter how the family members advised him, Bil4 is unmoved in his decision. Mom was paying the bills and now the family members found out everything including electricity and rates and taxes is in arrears the past 5 months for more than 20 K. Bil4 also announced he will go on early pension in February before getting married (5 years left till full pension is active). In his mind he is going to get double his monthly pay when taking early pension, instead of halving it.

The next evening gold digger starts to show her true coulors. She literary chased away Bil4 sister after gold digger says she’s going to throw away all Moms stuff and sister says she cannot do it, the Estate Will state clearly that it belong to the beneficiaries of Moms will. The next morning gold digger’s friend tried to chase the care taker away and gave him 24 hours to leave the property. After some phone calls the care taker was advice not to move. During the night Bil4 and gold digger had a massive fight. She broke some furniture and windows. The next morning she left Bil4, locked him in the house and only came back the afternoon with some friends. The caretaker took care of Bil4 through the window. Now there is rumors gold digger want to invite her friends to stay with then in the same house. The past week gold digger friends was there every day braaing and drinking on Bil4’s account.

It seems gold digger is also spiking Bil4 drinks. One family saw something fishy when gold digger pours Bil4 drink. In the evenings he’s passed out and when a family member calls he can hardly talk and fall asleep while talking. The past 5 months Bil4 only left the house once for the engagement. Gold digger friends had to come and assist to load the wheelchair and push him around for the event. In the meantime gold digger is splashing around the town during the week and on weekends leaving Bil4 at home. When friends and family members saw her and asked where is Bil4 she always had excuses why he doesn’t want to come.

The problem is gold digger keeps everyone away from Bil4. She drinks with him and encourage him to drink heavy. When she gives him his medication she starts to feed him wine. This increases his seizures. She starts to swear at every family member accusing them of trying to claim Bil4 house and pension. Things are so dire now no family wants to visit Bil4. Everyone knows she will divorce him after the marriage. Currently there is no sexual relationship due to the stroke and weight condition. Everyone can see she talks the talk in front of family, but does not walk the walk of a relationship.

The question now is how do you protect Bil4 against the gold digger and help him prevent him from committing financial suicide.


PS. I told my wife to cancel DSTV and Netflix. There is so much drama and action in this saga I can’t wait to get the daily reports. If anyone wants to write a book or make a movie, just pay the royalties and we are good.

[Glockster]

Firstly nomenclature is important, thats not a gold digger. I believe the clinical term is psychopath.
I think you would need to prove that she is wilfully endangering the life of a clearly disabled person by mixing medication and alcohol, in addition to neglect.
The other thing to establish is whether he is of sound mind to make any decisions. You need to document proof before a case can be opened or possibly proceed to court.

[gary-t]

We have had a similar story in our family. To cut things short. MIL and FIL have now passed away. BIL scammed them into inheriting the house. He has now passed away. Goldinger early 50's wife has now inherited the house. He was a financial advisor and has left her with an offshore based pension of more than R100k pm. She gets a new top of the range car every 3 years.

She is now living in the house with her new boyfriend and his mother. The house is on the market for R4.5m

[ady]

Damn, my life is boring

[Spliffcat]

Me uncle died interstate took 10 years to sort out everything including the lawyer who stole a couple of million.
The point of our existence is that there is no point.

[OCP]

Moral of the story... leave nothing behind ;-)

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[PotatoFace]

Moral of the story... leave nothing behind ;-)

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Buy the 50bmg now

[9MMPReaper]

Plan for your death gents - A will and an attorney you can trust wholeheartedly is so important.

Every man needs a good accountant and a good attorney (Preferably who know each other and your circumstances)

[oafpatroll]

Family is not always a blessing.

[Spliffcat]

Plan for your death gents - A will and an attorney you can trust wholeheartedly is so important. Every man needs a good accountant and a good attorney (Preferably who know each other and your circumstances)

This is very very good advice. Also think what happens if dementia makes an appearance. Power of attorney. There are only two things guaranteed in life. Death and taxes to feed the crooks.